By E. A. Falade
Emma and Kate were classmates in the university while studying law. They got attracted together by the diligence of the two as both always met in the law library reporting cases studied in the class. While in the final year, Emma noticed that Kates’ GPA was so high that with a little effort she would end up in first class honours degree. His own GPA as at then was just in third class. Because Emma had proposed to marry Kate and she had agreed, he had to work hard and he finally finished with second class honours (lower division) while the wife , Kate graduated with second class honours (upper division).
It was Emma who raised a poser while discussing a marriage seminar he would be foolish to look down on his wife who actually is highly intelligent. Though initially, he had made efforts to trivialize her suggestions and contributions. Of course, he confessed that he had lived to regret such foolish actions in the past.
The coming together of a man and a woman in agreement of marriage is mystery which Paul likens to the union of Christ and the Church (Ephesians 5:32). Jesus as the Lord of the Church declared, And I tell you that you are Peter, and on this rock I will build my church, and the gates of Hades will not overcome it. Matthew 16:18, (NIV). Jesus in union with the Church makes the Church almost invisible and impregnable to the powers of darkness. In fact Jesus watches over His Church to save, justify and vindicate her, no matter the accusations of the evil one.
In a like manner, the home where the wife agrees with her husband has such a formidable power that the scriptures affirm, “Truly I tell you, whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven. “Again, truly I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything they ask for, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven” Matthew 18:18-19, (NIV). There is not only power but synergy when the husband and wife agree as touching anything about them.
Strength is the quality or degree of being strong; it is synonymous to power, capability, expertise, fortitude. Everything and every creature of God is made with its own strength. For example, the strength of a house lies in the foundation, the strength of a horse is in its hind feet and the strength of the home is in the potentials of both the husband and the wife. What will make a home great, virile and successful is inherent in that home. The earlier couples recognize this fact, the better for them.
Unfortunately, instead of spouses to follow and recognize the gift of God in the life of their spouses, there are tendencies for them sometimes to trade blames and see their spouse as the problem when in actual fact, the best thing that can happen to you is your spouse. Your spouse is a God’s special gift for you and your life. He or she has been positioned for you to take you to your haven of rest. No one else can and should replace him or her.
Your spouse strength may be in his or her intelligence like in the case of Emma and Kate. In some others, the strength may lie in the spiritual others may exhibit courage, physical fitness, forgiveness, patience, gifts of the Holy Spirit, service, selflessness and giving. The strength of some may appear as small as making himself or herself available, giving invaluable pieces of advice and supporting his or her spouse financially. In fact, there is no end to what the strength of the spouses can be.
All that the spouses need to be are:
Study your spouse very critically and discover the strength he or she possesses.
Nurture the strength and nourish those areas of his or her strength.
Praise God for those strengths and verbally acknowledge and appreciate them.
Pray for God to bless your spouse for those divine deposits.
Celebrate those deposits in your spouse by:
Requesting specifically for them.
Treating him or her specially because of those strength.
Every home instituted by God is unique and special. The home is designed to be a solution to one major problem of life and that generation. God had equally packaged in the couple all that they will need to fulfil destiny. Do not despise the strengths in your spouse, running them down because of a few weaknesses in his or her life.
Rev. E. A. Falade